So... What's "excuse-addiction", anyway?
The truth is, we all make excuses. An excuse is our brain’s coping mechanism. It’s a way to get us out of distress and discomfort. So excuses do serve a purpose. Excuse-addiction happens when we allow ourselves to stay in situations that CAUSE us distress and discomfort!
Though the way we hear an excuse in our head is as unique as a fingerprint (even the same excuse can sound completely different in the minds of different people), one thing is common: When we are excuse-addicted, we start telling ourselves all the things we can’t do and all the things we are NOT. When we fail to make changes we know are needed, all our perceived limitations come rushing in to rescue us from ourselves. They come running to the rescue to save us from our responsibility to ourselves to make things happen.
Like a drug rushing into our veins, we feel better. We feel this strange wave of relief. We're wrapped in the warm, maternal embrace of our excuses and we close our eyes and try to shut out the guilt. Try to ignore the letdown we feel for letting ourselves down again. And we blame lack of intelligence, motivation, time, money, resources, support, trust, ability. Or worse, we tell ourselves we've got it all under control.
Excuse-addiction is an unproductive type of control. But we can beat it. Not with intelligence. Not with motivation alone. We need a breakthrough. It’s about getting into our brains and finding out the ways that we resist progress and finding out the ways that tension builds up in our bodies when we think about doing certain activities. Learning to break our individual pattern of excuses is the key to making our dreams happen.